Why People That “Have It All” Die by Suicide

 

Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain are the most recent stars to join the growing epidemic of suicide. In every case, suicide is incomprehensible, but it seems to be more unfathomable when the person that passes away leaves behind children, a fortune, and overwhelming popularity.

As suicide loss survivors we all search for the “why”.

Dr. Thomas Joiner, who literally wrote the book on “Why People Die By Suicide”  explains that the majority of people who take suicidal action often share four common beliefs and traits.

  1. Perceived Burdensomeness: “My death is worth more than my life to my loved ones/family/society.”
  2. Feelings of Not Belonging: “I serve no purpose and/or no one understands my pain.”
  3. Hopelessness: “I will always feel this way.”
  4. Lowered Fear of Death & a Desire to Permanently End Their Pain

From my personal experience and from working with thousands of suicide attempt survivors across the country, I have realized that often suicide is not chosen, it is what happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.  As Dr. Joiner states, “That is the power of depression.”

That said, with the proper support and intervention SUICIDE IS PREVENTABLE!

What can you do to prevent suicide?

  1. Normalize the topics of mental health and suicide prevention by starting and continuing a stigma-free conversation with your coworkers, friends, and family (see stigma-free language tips below). Creating a world where no one suffers in silence starts with discussing these vital issues openly. Never forget, we are in this together and no life is beyond saving!

2. Know the warning signs: recent loss of a close relationship, depressed mood, loss of interest in life, isolation, giving away processions, and saying phrases like “You guys would be better off without me.” For a full list of warning signs, click here.

3. Reach out for support for yourself or for someone you care about who is in crisis. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a free 24/7 support service staffed with professionals who will provide you with resources and non-judgmental support. Call 1-800-273-8255.

For additional strategies to support employee mental health & safety, visit Corporate.MettieSpiess.com.

Sending Strength & Hope,
AWorldWithoutSuicide.com